Behavior and school advice

(written by Dr. Sharyl Paley)

Now that we are a third of the way through the school year, most parents have had a chance to have a conference with their child's teacher. This may be the first time that mention of a "school problem" has come up. It also may be reminiscent of last year's conference where the same problems were stated.

School problems can be noted at any time of the year and during any grade in school. What might have been a minor problem in an early grade can escalate as the work becomes more difficult and a more complicated thought process is involved. A problem that is picked up in early years may save time and stress in later years.

What should you do if you are concerned or a teacher is concerned? First of all, gather facts. Review old report cards and progress notes to see if this is a new problem or if there were hints of this before. Try to get reports from more then one teacher. Ask the teacher what the expectations are and how far your child is from fulfilling those expectations.

Review whether your child has had any changes in behavior, eating or sleeping. Medical problems such as hearing loss, sleep apnea or an unknown seizure disorder can masquerade as a school problem. Ask the teachers if he/she notes any social problems.

While you are gathering information make an appointment to see your pediatrician. He/she will review the problem with you and start an evaluation process. Expect to review past development and go over family history of similar problems. An eye test and hearing test also may be performed. Your pediatrician may have you fill out forms, ask for information from the teacher, or refer your child for further testing. Don't expect an immediate answer. This may involve a process that proceeds over a few months.

Remember-you are your child's advocate. Don't hesitate to ask for an evaluation if you think something is wrong. Also, don't be afraid to admit there is a problem. It is better to address it and come up with a plan that will benefit your child then to ignore it.

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